Sex is a universal language

 Bangkok, 2019. I was staying near Lumphini Park at Bangkok Babylon resort. I was getting plenty of sex in my suite and in the sauna but wanted to venture out into the neighbourhood. On the apps I hooked up with a guy, ‘O’, and walked to the address I was given. In amongst a series of apartments I found the right one and was let in. It was immediately apparent he spoke no English, I spoke no Thai. The lack of language can be masked on the apps with translation software and that fine. In person it’s a little more challenging.

 We managed without great difficulty to establish I was to top and O would bottom and that he was ok with me taking a photo. Afterwards there was no post-coital chat which was a shame.

Sex does seem to have its own universal language. Language is obviously no barrier in a bathhouse where sex is the object. Here was a little more challenging, entering someone’s home, but I guess the fact that we’d already seen each other’s profiles and set up the meeting on the app made things straightforward. 

Cruise club regular

 I’d seen him before at the cruise club I often go to. We locked eyes and slipped into a room. It was 2020 but Covid restrictions on meeting had been eased for the time being. ‘M’ agreed to be videoed.

He was from the Philippines and had a small cock and a tight hairless asshole. I fucked him on his back and turned him over to take him from behind.

After I deposited a load in his ass we split up and I didn’t seem him for an hour or two. As I readied to leave, after midnight, I walked once more around the club and we bumped into each other in the corridor. I dropped my pants and took him up the ass in a standing fuck there in the corridor. I could have gone on thrusting for quite some time but he mentioned that he had taken two loads since our earlier fuck and this was such a turn on that my brain seemed to click and I immediately came and pumped my load into him. There’s something really hot about fucking a cum lubricated hole.

Cancun, Mexico

I travelled to Cancun, Mexico, in 2016. An international meeting was being held in a fancy gated resort complete with private beach and everything included, including free liquor in the room, by the pools and in the bars and restaurants. I was unaccustomed to such luxury but hoped it would be a good place for sex. 

I soon connected with a guy on Grindr and things looked promising. He asked me why I was there and when I said I was a delegate to the international meeting he immediately blocked me.Obviously, he was also a delegate and presumably a closeted one. So I gave up on cruising and concentrated on business for the week of meetings. 

However, all was not lost as I had arranged to take a few days holiday at a somewhat cheaper hotel further along the beach. It was a tower block alongside several other big hotels but right on the public beach.    

Grindr worked just fine away from the closed off world of the exclusive resort. As well as swimming in some beautiful clear and warm sea I had two memorable hookups with young men. This was shortly before I started barebacking consistently and before I went on PrEP. However, I did occasionally go raw on a somewhat ad hoc basis. 

The first hookup was with a twink of about 18 who was holidaying with his parents. They were in the next door hotel and he had slipped out telling them he was going for a walk. He fucked me quite satisfactorily as he had done it a few times before. He was interested in me fucking him but he hadn’t done it before and I wouldn’t want to rush such an important milestone to get him back to his parents in time. 

Unusually the other guy had also sneaked away from a family holiday in a nearby hotel. However, he was somewhat more independent being a new soldier on leave from a military base in California. He also fucked me and did a good job. One feature that I recall was the fact that he had shaved all his pubic hair. That is, of course, by no means especially unusual but I did wonder about the communal sleeping and bathing arrangements. On the other hand I guess the army has a cross section of young men not unlike the rest of society. 

Losing contact with a great fuckbuddy

 All the hallmarks of a good fuck buddy were there. He could host just 10 minutes away by car or 20 minutes on the bike. He was just ‘my type’. He was a great fucker, bareback of course.

‘S’ and I first hooked up on Grindr in 2020 once the meeting restrictions were eased after lockdown. He was an Asian guy, sexually active, fit, top and usually available late morning on weekdays. We hooked up 4 times, roughly once a month. 

I would arrive at his apartment and we’d go to his small bedroom where he’d have music playing. We’d kiss and suck each other then he’d lube me and begin. He was very sensual as well as being skilled in various positions of lovemaking. He always bred me.  Several times we made videos.

Several months after our last encounter I messaged him on Grindr and got no reply. He hadn’t blocked or ghosted me, the Grindr account was not active. I had no other means to contact him. I sometimes wonder what became of S. Since then I have tried to get back up means of contact with hookups but alas I’ll not see S again.

Iconic Marshals Beach, San Francisco

 Can there be a more iconic location for a gay beach than Marshalls beach near the foot of the southern end of the Golden Gate Bridge?

I was cycling a circuit around the city on a rental e-bike and had done the Golden Gate Park and was looping through the Presidio. I hadn’t prepared to go to the beach but I have an inkling of a nude beach in the area and did a search on my iPhone. No bathing costume with me but as I’ve discovered before, that’s self-evidently not a problem with a nude beach. In any case, there’s something very liberating about naked beach walking, sunbathing and swimming. Naked sex is a very welcome bonus.

You start by descending a steep cliff, through some vegetation and clamber over some rocks. You walk past the straights before reaching a recognisably gay area. This all seems classic gay beach geography. Clothes off to walk further and I manage to snap a selfie with appropriate backdrop. 

By this part of the beach nudity is everywhere but so is gay sex. A couple of guys are fucking on the sand in a bend in the cliffs, their friends around and chatting.

Right at the end of the stretch of beach is a rocky outcrop and this is where there is a lot of action mainly standing fucking as there’s no stand to lay down on. Regrettably, I’m very conscious of the deadline for returning my bike and must rush off. As it is I have to cycle the last portion through the city after sundown and without lights on the bike. I’ll certainly return and be better prepared next time.

Delights of Montpellier and Lyon

Montpellier and Lyon featured on a Eurail trip in 2019. I ended up at the Koncept sauna in Montpellier in what appeared to be the North African quarter of this Mediterranean city.

 I had fucking a guy in the steam room and was preparing to leave the room when the guy indicated he wanted something from me. No language was used and it wouldn’t have helped since I don’t speak French, although I recognise many French words. Words weren’t needed once he proffered a plastic disposable hand glove and signalled to push my arm up his ass. I conveyed a startled expression and made it clear I had no idea what to do. Patiently he taught me how to Pistorius’s him using gestures and positioning my hand. I gingerly pushed my fingers, then my hand and wrist and finally my arm into his body. I expect I was too gentle and more vigorous thrusting or punching was hoped for. My first and only fisting experience was interesting and produced sensations in my arm that were quite unusual.

Moving to Lyon allowed me to visit Premier Sous-Sol which was a most amazingly large and quirky cruise club. Clearly it can accommodate large crowds and often gets them but unfortunately not on the night I was there. 

While appearing to have the place to myself for a while I finally hooked up with a very attractive young French guy. I coaxed him into fucking me which required some active hand and mouth work to get him aroused first.  We were actually fucking when a third guy arrived and actively solicited him off me to have sex with him. I was very frustrated at this alienation of affection. They proceeded to fuck in front of me.

Finally I visited a small cruise club, Le Trou. It was a busy place with lots of different kinds of spaces for hooking up. I had quite a bit of sex there but the stand out for me was a guy lying face down on a bench in a small cubicle who looked up and asked ‘actif?’ I answered ‘oui’ and slipped into his room, then his cute young French ass, and deposited a load. Silly, I know, but I was so pleased to have seamlessly mastered this most minimal of foreign language conversations.

Anonymous Christmas load

 Just a few days before Xmas 2019 I was in a hotel and was messaged by 25 year old K, a visiting German. Although I never actually saw him in the flesh I was impressed by a picture he shared with lean body, hairy chest and a big cock which he confirmed was 19 cm.

His message indicated he wanted an anonymous encounter, a fantasy I was hoping to fulfil. He planned to use a condom and was non-negotiable on that which was ok in order to take his 19 cm.

I didn’t have a blindfold with me but he said it was ok if I had a pillowcase over my head. I left the hotel door unlocked and heard him enter 5 minutes later. The anticipation while I lay naked on the bed was almost unbearable as I heard him undress and prepare. Despite lubing me up I involuntarily squealed as his big cock began to enter. He kindly reached under the hood to let me have a sniff of poppers and soon we were at it in earnest. A hot session but I never got a glimpse of the guy. As a souvenir he left a condom with his big load behind, an early Christmas present.

London’s Vault 139

 

Londons Vault is on my list of the UK’s main attractions. From street level you descend into a wonderful debauched bar and play space.

One of my favourite memories is of a cute young guy motioning for me to come over and fuck him, which I did raw, while at the same time he continued passionately to kiss two other boys.

Cruising Berlin’s Tiergarten

 Berlin has many fine qualities and places. One is the large central park known as the Tiergarten.  Parts of the park are given over to nude sunbathing which I participated in on a visit in 2019.

After relaxing naked on a large lawn for a while I got up and dressed. There were guys cruising in the woods nearby but I passed on. 

Leaving that part of the park intending to catch the S-bahn I headed along one of the roads that bisect the park. Passing a parked car a good looking young man with dark stubble on his face stepped out and looked in my eyes. He was tall and fit. There was the frisson that one gets from being cruised and I stopped walking. He motioned for us to cross the fence alongside the footpath. I found a gap, crossed through some bushes and headed across to a large bush that he had probably earlier identified for the purpose.

We grabbed each others’ crotches and became hard quickly. I unzipped his jeans and went down on my knees and sucked his large cock and he soon returned the favour. We didn’t speak but I had the impression he was Italian, certainly my image of a sexy Italian. Before long we switched to fucking, each taking turns and switching around. We could hear people walking along the path below us down a slope about 10 m away, but not so many that we had to stop for very long.

After he came in my ass I turned around and was surprised to find he had been videoing the fuck. I wasn’t upset or annoyed but just surprised and a bit confused as to how he managed it. I think he had his phone in his shirt pocked and, with experience had a technique to hold it during his turn to top. I attempted to take a souvenir picture of my own but could only manage a quick and slightly blurred shot of his cock. We departed so quickly in different directions that it never occurred to me to get a copy of his video. Shame as the whole thing was really hot.

Naked photography with a friend

 For much of my sexual life the idea of taking photos would have been absurd. How would you get them developed? Where would you keep them? Who would agree to be pictured? Things have changed.

My first explicitly sexual photo was taken in my room in a Vancouver bathhouse. It was solo as I hadn’t got the nerve at that stage to ask anyone else. (I had the nerve to fuck them but was more nervous about asking to film.)

Initially I just photographed the ass of guys I was fucking. It was easy to do that. No videos. No identification. This photo for example was the first HIV+ guy I knowingly fucked (and fucked raw) after I was on PrEP.

Eventually I did get into videoing sexual encounters and getting off on it. I began by avoiding faces and sometimes still do although the images make for better memories with all the details. It’s a negotiation with your partner and I have to avoid scaring off nervous guys altogether. 

Sometimes I set up a fixed camera.

This is often combined with handheld camera phones, mine or the other guy or guys. So I have a few shots from fixed cameras of other guys, usually tops, filming me.

A video enthusiast

I was fairly late in getting a smart phone, 2018 I think. With a camera phone I started taking pics and graduated to videos. I never looked back (except to film the guy loading my ass). It is frustrating when you have to rely on the guy you’ve just met, usually a top, to film the angles you can’t see and they turn out to be poor cameramen. I remember asking a guy with a 20cm black cock to film it entering my hole - when I viewed it all I saw was a close up of my back for 30 seconds.

So it was fun to hook up with a young guy whose tiny city apartment was full of video stuff and he clearly was an enthusiast. He took charge and insisted on doing the filming which he shared.

He was a bit of a control freak I suspect although he was a nice guy. He insisted exactly where I was to stand and he varied the lighting while he fucked me. He was insistent that we only do doggy although I offered other positions. I didn’t mind though as we enjoyed the sex and, especially when I later viewed the videos, he had a photogenic cock and body. He was South Asian with a jet black body and cock, with a purple head, and the lube glistened. 

We met up a second time, this time at my home as a friend was staying at his apartment. Same deal in terms of positioning my body and fucking only doggy style. He loaded me with his cum as he had on the first occasion. 

Sexy Spain: Barcelona and Sitges

June 2019, a week or so in Barcelona and Sitges, a nearby seaside town, famous as a gay holiday spot. I start with a couple of nights in a classic Barcelona hotel with my room looking into an inner courtyard.

At ground level is a gay cruise club, Boyberry, how cool is that. It hardly a coincidence as this is an Axel gay hotel. Next morning I get a day pass and enter several times during the day. Not disappointed. Amongst several encounters a hot young guy pulls me into a cubicle and shoves his cock in my hole. It’s not long before his sweet young Spanish cum is deep inside me. Another guy starts fucking me with a condom but things get hot, he rips the rubber off, pounds me hard and delivers a big load in my ass. 

Next day I head to my seaside apartment. It is on the top floor and catches the sun while preserving privacy. I spend my time there naked and relaxed.

It’s actually the beginning of Sitges Gay Pride although I do see much going on. I visit the sauna but there’s not many guys. I sit on a guy’s big cock in the steam room which was nice.

Next day I head off to the gay beach, Playa del Muerto. Quite an adventure as it is a scenic walk past the city beach over a hill and along a railway cutting, avoiding the trains. Nice beach, one of the first gay beaches in the world apparently. 

On the return walk I see a forest that is a likely cruise area. Wandering around I soon spot the telltale empty condom packets and used tissues. I spend 30 seconds assembling some for a pic. I love these kind of places in Spain, the cruising is excellent. 

I soon see a guy and head over and wordlessly set about fucking him. No language required. His friend watches on.

That evening I head to a bar, Club XXL, which was pretty busy. Its ’backroom’ was not actually at the back but up some stairs on the next level or a mezzanine. I wandered around but despite the number of guys there was, in the room I entered, no sex going on. I took the initiative and pulled my pants down and bent over a piece of furniture, effectively a fuck bench. Initially nothing happened and guys stayed in groups drink. It could have become embarrassing but I was lucky and a hot hairy Arab guy pulled out his large cock, came over, bent down and pushed it into my ass, flesh on flesh. Guys stood around watching him pumping me and it broke the ice and sex started around the room.

I took a load from the Arab guy and later in a cramped alcove I took another load although it was so tight I couldn’t easily turn to see who was fucking me. When I got back to my apartment I videoed the two loads squirting out all mixed together onto a pool on a side table.

Flipping versatile

Too often when I hook up with someone whose app says versatile they turn out to bottom only. I don’t know why they use the label. Truth in advertising is likely to work better for them. 

I’m truly versatile. I started keeping statistics on my sexual encounters in 2019. The ratio from topping to bottoming has fluctuated based upon partner availability but in 2022 I had the neatly balanced figure of topping 130 times and bottoming 130 times also.

There’s nothing better as a versatile to encounter another true versatile and naturally flip to follow the natural rhythm of the session.

One such hookup off BBRTS in Bangkok was with stunning 37 year old Asian guy with a ‘plus’ size cock. He gave me a huge load as well as taking a load himself.

Another session 18 months later in 2019 involved a slim hairy 28 year old European guy with an even bigger cut cock. He was to become a fuck buddy that I hooked up with when I visited his city.

In a Prague sauna

Prague. 2019. I’d been to this great city before. On an earlier occasion I’d enjoyed the back rooms of bars. One I recall vividly. A small bar with a curtained off area where guys would slip in and out. After a beer I casually went behind the curtain and into the dark. There were two guys in there and I moved in front of one, my ass to his froth, and lifted my shirt and lowered my trousers. I felt his hard cock and slipped on a condom, this was an earlier time. I felt him entering my hole and thrusting until he was done. The other guy took his turn in my now loosened moistened hole.

But this was 2019. I couldn’t recall where that earlier bar was. In any case cities change all the time, even in ancient places like Prague, well the gay bars do. So I tried Grindr, a guy took my fancy but no reply. So I headed to a sauna. Sauna Babylonia. Very few guys there. In the steam room I started feeling up an older hairy Indian guy. I was lubed up already so he slid his cock in my ass, fucked me and blew his load in my hole.

I wandered around a bit and hooked up with a sexy young guy S in a room. He used a condom which was a little disappointing but he was hot and I wasn’t complaining. S was a 24 year old middle eastern otter. Once I logged back onto Grindr after I left the sauna it turned out S was the guy I’d earlier contacted on the app, he had responded but after I turned my phone off. We both had given up and headed to the same sauna, Small world.

Manual worker hookup

 A holiday town in the mountains staying in a motel in 2019. I’d looked on Grindr and was surprised to hook up with a young Asian guy from the next room. He said we had to be quiet as his mother was there and the walls weren’t that thick. Not a recipe for the best most energetic sex but I got him off. So I was left wanting more. 

My next Grindr hookup couldn’t have been more different from the hairless twink I’d just been with. He was a rugged tattooed outdoor worker who arrived in his pickup truck, fresh from a job. I could smell his sweat and see that his tattoos were amateurish, homemade. He let me take a snap comparing dicks.

He wanted me to fuck him. Raw of course. He may have been tough but he took my cock in his hole and moaned like a baby.

I doubt he told his mates on the building site what he’d been doing after work that day

Club Houston

I can’t say that I liked Houston much when I visited in 2019. So spread out. So many cars and freeways. Wonderful art museum. NASA was fun. And then there was Club Houston.

Club Houston was a fancy bathhouse, clean, big outdoor pool, all the facilities. It had the US practice of renting a room into which you brought all your belongings. Including your phone so I decided to take some pics in the room, consensual of course.

The first guy I brought to the room and sucked till he came in my mouth had a beautiful black body and a nice thick cock. After he came we chatted and I found out he was from Ethiopia. How exotic as well as erotic. Didn’t get a pic of him hard just as he was relaxing. Still big though.

The next two guys joined me separately but followed a pattern. Both Latino, both wearing jocks and liked to take my cock raw in their slightly chubby asses. I obliged and gave each a good pounding.

Orgies In Washington DC and Sydney

I’m not sure quite how you define an orgy. Many people at a bathhouse or cruise club - as good as those are - don’t seem to fit the bill. Nor do simple threesomes. I guess more than 5 people and held at a special time and place, not just a regular opening of sex premises. Not a great definition but I I guess you recognise an orgy when you see it.

I think my first orgy was in Washington DC in the late-1990s. I’d registered to get the address, turned up to the apartment, stripped and put my clothes in a cardboard box, and wandered around the place which was someone’s home with sheets protecting the furniture. Two images stick in my mind 25 years later. First, guys were barebacking at the height of the AIDS crisis. I was shocked. Second, guys were lining up to fuck this slight, pale, young twink, one after the other. Again rather shocking if also arousing. He looked a bit wasted and he leant on me for support while being fucked standing up, without me he’d probably have keeled over. I admit that once the line was satisfied I fucked him, it seemed only polite.

I later went to a series of orgies over a period of several years in Sydney with the first in 2017. Although usually I scored only a fraction of the sex some of the other guys were getting I was pleased to see a picture from the organisers of a room full of naked guys with hardons and I was in the centre as the only guy being fucked at that time.

The only guy being fucked at that minute.

Actually the cute young Asian guy who was fucking me at that time stayed all evening flipping with me. At the end of the orgy he offered to drive me to my hotel which was hilariously a Japanese-style capsule hotel. We sneaked in with sleeping people, guys and girls, below and alongside my pod. Nonetheless I managed to fuck and breed him in the capsule and he slipped away back to his car. 

Bangkok Babylon

Bangkok Babylon was heaven. I first visited it in 1998 while holiday in at another hotel in Bangkok. Later it changed premises and had many luxurious accommodation options as well as more basis barracks rooms. It had a huge bathhouses with many facilities duplicated so that you might visit one huge steam room in the afternoon and another would open in the evening. 

I stayed there subsequently 4 or 5 times in various penthouse suites and garden apartments. As well as having a good time in the bathhouse and using the pool and restaurant I was able to hook up in my rooms and with locals. In an earlier post I recalled one guy of especially big proportions. I also met up with W who lived near Babylon who bred me every time I visited Bangkok. 

Postcard from Babylon, W and me enjoying each others’ bodies.

I was bereft when Bangkok Babylon closed for good as a result of Covid.

Sensual sex in Brisbane

En route to Asia I stopped in Brisbane and hooked up with a 40 year old fit European guy, M. I found him on BBRTS - bareback real time sex - so there was no confusion over whether M liked taking it raw. 

M was a romantic and set out and lit scented candles while we sat naked together on the floor. He had me thoroughly rim him, something I rarely do but enjoyed doing with him. When I entered him raw he insisted I go slowly- not like some of these young guys who struggle to take a big cock, but because he was a master in creating memorable pleasurable sex. I enjoyed breeding him and rated him a 10.

Hong Kong: Mixing business and pleasure

 My work took me to Hong Kong from time to time, usually for 4 or 5 days of meetings. On early trips I’d visit some of their bathhouses but in 2019 I hooked up with G on the apps. G used condoms and was reluctant to bareback but was persuadable. He asked that I not go with other guys before our encounters so that he wasn’t mixing with their cum, which I reluctantly abided by. In return we had some excellent sex with G topping.

G was unusual, although not unique, among my hookups in wanting to sleep the night with me. This usually meant fucking me at least three times on each visit: on arrival in the evening, waking me up in the night, and before he left in the morning. Sometimes an extra was slipped in so I was getting a full pounding sometimes for 3 or 4 days in a row.

It was good to mix business and pleasure.

Big and wide at Bangkok

In 2019 I visited Thailand for the first time on PrEP- previous visits involved condoms, this trip was to be raw. I stayed at Bangkok Babylon which combined fabulous accommodations with a huge gay bathhouse to the highest standards.

On a visit to the sauna I had a great encounter with a local Thai with an enormous cock. He really stretched my hole. He agreed to hook up at my room the next day if I gave one of my complimentary sauna tickets, a good deal we both thought.

Next day he allowed me to video the encounter which started with a photo of his circumcised cock.

My own cock is pretty thick but it was put in the shade by this beauty. 

After impaling me, he continued to pound me for 20 minutes before flooding my insides with his cum. A fond Bangkok memory.

Embracing barebacking

I start to write this blog in 2024 but intend to cover a selection of encounters mainly from 2017 onwards as well as reporting on current hookups. The significance of 2017 is that I started consistently barebacking at the start of that year as well as beginning to get more adventurous with my sexual encounters.

At the end of 2016 I was persuaded by a cute Chinese guy I met in Macau to bareback. We met up twice in my hotel. At that time I conscientiously used condoms as a rule. On the first occasion he fucked me with a condom but would pull the condom off. I treated it as a game and let him fuck for 5 minutes raw and would then put a new condom on him. This went on about three times until he came, duly wrapped.

He was really hot so I contacted him on my last day in the city. He said he wasn’t available. I said I was disappointed as I had planned to let him bareback me as he clearly wanted to. It turned out he was available and arrived 30 minutes later. He explained that he only fucked raw. He told me about PrEP and I decided that I would find out more. I went on PrEP and barebacked from 2017 onwards.